We human beings have the rare tendency, as compared to other
creatures, to be altruistic, to give to those to whom we are not related. It is
thought that a secure and happy childhood, with healthy attachments, makes it
natural for us to act out of compassion, love, and altruism.
Much
research confirms the psychological benefits and physical health gains of
giving to others. However, balance is important. Extremes of altruism can lead
to unhealthy psychological compulsions. For example, it’s never emotionally
healthy for us to let ourselves become doormats.
Even if you
haven’t been in the habit of giving to others, you can improve your mood and
your general health just by beginning to act charitably. Simply choosing to be
more caring or helpful to members of your family is enough to strengthen your
altruism “muscle” and make you feel better.
Giving
money or goods to a charitable cause is good but not the only way to be
altruistic. Listening attentively, forgiving people who have hurt you, or going
out of your way to cheer a suffering person are also valuable acts of
compassion and may serve to develop a different aspect of your natural
charitable impulses.
We think of
altruism as originating in our hearts. Put your brain to work also by
visualizing yourself responding generously and compassionately to family
members, coworkers, and friends. It’s easier to tap into your best self if you
have already pictured yourself doing it.
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